How do I find my limits?
This is the prerequisite for you to LIVE WITHOUT LIMITS
Ask yourself a simple question.
How can you achieve something, get to know it, and ultimately go beyond it, leave it behind and forget it, if you don't know it? I think the answer is clear to you - you can't. Finding limits means recognizing them.
You're saying to me now: "What's the point? I have no limits. I'm happy."
Great!
Congratulations!
I would feel sorry for you if I believed you. But all I'm saying is that you're probably in the wrong place. You don't want to seek and experience your limits right now, and that's the right decision for you right now. Keep living like this and see if you are ready to experience your limits one day. Some people never want to, and that is their free choice and their right. But if they believe that they are free to believe that, I say to them: You are free to believe this in the sense of being allowed to believe it, but you are not free in the sense of spiritual freedom if you don't even know your limits yet.
But now you want to find your limits.
Great.
The first and most important thing you should realize is that you came into the world without limits. At day 0 minute 1 you knew nothing about limits, you were a blank page waiting to be written on. However, in the beginning you did not pick up the pen to write on that page, and perhaps you still do not.
Throughout your life, many people have written on your page. First, your parents, by describing and showing you - to the best of their knowledge and belief in most cases - your first limits. Good and evil, right and wrong were defined for you for the first time. And many other people took your hand - teachers, friends, classmates, colleagues, your partner, politicians, journalists and many more.
All of this has shaped your consciousness and taught you who you are, what to do, what not to do, and how to behave wherever you are. However, the entries on your life sheet have influenced your subconscious mind much more than your conscious mind, for you are what you think.
By the time you were 2 years old, you had probably heard "No" up to 30,000 times. Each "No" limited your options a little more, and each "No" set a new limit for you. Over the course of your life, you have internalized these limits and unconsciously made them part of the core of your being.
People rely on routines to survive, and that's a good thing. Imagine if you had to rethink every action you took throughout the day. It would take a lot of time and it would keep you from doing the things that make up your day, your job, your life. And that's a good thing, because it stabilizes people and is politically and sociologically necessary for society - what else would work if everyone had to rethink every action at the same time?
But your red lines and your practiced behavior are not only useful, because they also limit you.
Are you completely happy, or do you sometimes think about becoming happier or finding true happiness?
Do you really love the people close to you or are you satisfied with the status quo?
Is your job fulfilling or do you have a job you "have to do"?
Do you always say what you think or do considerations and conventions prevent you from articulating your thoughts?
I know you understand which of these questions are relevant and apply to you, and many more could be asked,.
Many people have become comfortable with their status quo, even believing they have no limits, and the few limits they do see they consider insurmountable, appropriate, and right (which can be a rationalization). Those who have settled into the world in this way will never LIVE WITHOUT LIMITS.
A simple example.
Imagine that your favorite artist comes near you. You've always dreamed of seeing him or her live, but you didn't find out about it in time. A week before the performance, you find out that the event is sold out.
Many people say "too bad" at this point and write off their dream, postponing the visit to "next time" - not knowing if there will be a next time. These people do not realize that the lack of a ticket is a limit that they unconsciously accept.
People who recognize the "ticket" as a limit then find solutions to get a ticket-at whatever cost. These people then go to the event because they recognized the limit and found a way to overcome it.
You might say: "That's not a limit. It's just the way life is sometimes."
That's true.
Then you are someone who accepts limits - even those that are easy to overcome.
You might respond: "Then the event isn't that important!"
Exactly. You are rationalizing. You are telling yourself and your subconscious that your most fervent desire is not really important. Your subconscious understands this much faster than you do:
Nothing in your life is so important that you are willing to cross boundaries.
Your subconscious decides for you: we stay within our limits, we don't discover the world.
But how do you really know your limits?
Check all your beliefs and convictions that are based on "no", "never", "not", "nowhere", "nobody", "no one", etc.
"You don't do that!"
If you believe that, you have found a limit.
"Can I do this or that? No!"
And again you are faced with a limitation.
"You can never do that!"
Another limit you have discovered.
"We've never done it that way!"
So your route is not allowed.
"That doesn't exist anywhere!"
Yes, if you believe in it, it can be or become possible.
"Nobody can solve this (problem)!"
(Problems don’t exist with LIVE WITHOUT LIMITS)
You can choose to be "nobody" every day.
"No one has the right to do this!"
Are we talking about a law or a belief? In the case of a belief, EVERYONE has the right. And even with a law, only you decide if it is relevant to you - with all the consequences.
You can continue this list as long as you like, and you will find that your life is defined by many limits. YOU have defined the vast majority of them. And that's why only YOU can find them. For you must find them in order to begin your journey into living without limits by removing them.
I wish you every success on your journey to yourself.
On this journey you will understand a little more as you find, experience, eliminate and let go of each limit:
The best is yet to come!
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